Since there are different kinds of women, it stands to reason that there are different kinds of brides. Some are easy going, some are fiercely passionate about their desires. Some are focused and some are flaky. Do all kinds of brides need wedding planners? Are different kinds of wedding planning better for different kinds of brides? The answer might surprise you!
Take this quiz to find out!
Circle the answer closest to your feelings.
After the proposal, How long did it take you to set the date?
A. That night! Are you serious?!
B. We’re totally going to do that, set a date. How long does it take other people?
C. It took us a few months to come up with a date that worked for everyone.
D. Well, we discussed it with our moms and they, I mean we, decided on the date right away.
When did you start planning your wedding?
A. When I knew my fiance was the one- almost six months before he asked.
B. It’ll come together right? I’m almost ready to start planning. But I really don’t have any idea where to start.
C. Once we set the date, we started talking options and we’ve steadily checked things off the list.
D. My cousin found me a time line. I think it’s important to stick to it, but I don’t want to upset anyone or be too pushy.
What decor choices have you made?
A. Blush, Gold, and Navy. I gave all my vendors pantone palettes and I have three pinterest boards with inspiration photos organized into ceremony, reception and personal.
B. I have fifteen pinterest boards with like twenty different color schemes. I don’t really know what anything like this would cost, and I have so many ideas. I don’t know how someone would ever make a choice!
C. I have the colors picked. I think I know what I want for my centerpieces but I’m a little bit overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done.
D. I wanted to to orchid and sage, but my fiance doesn’t know what those words mean, and my sister got married last year and my mom said it would save a lot of money if we reused some of her decorations. She had red and navy, which I don’t really like, but, she’s probably right…
What would you do if your venue told you you couldn’t use the tables in the configuration you want because that isn’t how they usually do it.
A. I’d tell the venue coordinator that we are doing the tables the way I want them. I measured and they fit. I know what I want. I know it’s possible. There isn’t any reason not to do it. So I want it done.
B. Well, I don’t know if my venue has tables and chairs. I might have to rent them but I don’t even know where to rent tables and chairs. I haven’t signed the contract yet. I should probably give that lady a call.
C. I have to work with the coordinator for three more months and I don’t want to make things difficult between us, but I don’t think she’s being reasonable about this particular thing. I’ll probably send her a carefully worded email.
D. Well, the coordinator probably knows what will work best in her space. I’ll just defer to her judgement.
What would you do if your mother in law wanted to do a ‘Dollar Dance’ but you think it’s tacky?
A. I think it’s tacky. I’m not doing a dollar dance. Period.
B. Is that something I’m expected to do? I don’t really know what is traditional or what I’m expected to do.
C. I’d take her out to coffee and tell her that I am a little shy about the dollar dance because everyone is already spending so much money to be at the wedding and I don’t want them to feel pressured to spend even more money. Then I’d try to talk her into, maybe, a ‘Snowball’ dance, that she and her son could start.
D. It isn’t really something I like and I feel embarrassed about doing something like that, but I don’t want to offend her, so we’ll probably end up doing it.
What part of the wedding is most important to you?
A. We’re spending a lot of money on this. I want it to be the wedding I’m dreaming of, or as near to it as possible.
B. I want to marry my fiance, and have a great party. All this fuss stresses me out!
C. I know it isn’t going to be perfect, but I just want it to be really fun and really meaningful. I can’t wait to be married!
D. I want to marry my fiance and make sure everyone that comes, especially the mothers, and my sister, and my cousin, are happy.
If someone gifted you the services of a wedding planner, what services would you choose.
A. I don’t think I need a wedding planner. I have everything under control.
B. What does a wedding planner do? It sounds like something I’d be interested in, since I’m feeling overwhelmed, but I just don’t know…
C. I would really like a day of coordinator. I have worked hard on all of this, but I’d really like to enjoy my wedding day.
D. Honestly, I’d be afraid a wedding planner would be one more person telling me what to do.
OK, Now for the scoring.
Mostly A’s- You are a no nonsense, take charge kind of girl. You know what you want and you aren’t afraid to get it. But do you need a wedding planner? You probably don’t need full wedding planning, unless you’re also a very busy girl (in which case you can employ a planner to do the leg work for you so you can just make decisions, and enjoy the process). Whether you’re busy or not, a day of coordinator is a great choice for you. Even though you’re on top of it, even though you know exactly how you want each table set and exactly who is in the first row and who is going down the aisle with who, you may be forgetting one big thing about the big day- you’re going to be getting married. Before that, you’re going to be getting your hair and makeup done, and trying to relax and maybe even tearing up a bit. When are you going to have time to go over the table settings and put out the reserved signs for the front row? A planner can execute all your plans to your exact specifications. She can trouble shoot and get things done while you’re spending a rare day being pampered and taken care of. On your wedding day, the best way to stay in control is to delegate to someone who will be in control for you!
Mostly B’s- You are in love and you’re excited, but after that, you don’t really know what to do, or where to start. Full wedding planning is the thing for you. A planner can help you budget, figure out what traditions to do and which to skip. She can help you navigate family issues and help you with vendors that are in your budget. A planner will take your wedding from a confusing jumble to a wonderful event that you’ll cherish in your memory for the rest of your life.
Mostly C’s- You are calm, cool and collected. You know what you want but you are willing to go with the flow to a certain extent. You make smart decisions and are in a great place to enjoy your wedding. A day of coordinator is perfect for you. You’ll turn over the hard part of the day to a professional who will allow you to enjoy it!
Mostly D’s- Let’s be honest, you are just too nice. You don’t want to hurt people’s feelings and you want to meet everyone’s expectations, but sometimes you forget about what YOU want. For you, a wedding planner can mean much more. You need an advocate, someone who will stand up for you to family and friends and vendors alike. A planner will be on your side and help make sure that your wedding has at least a little something to do with you!
What kind of Bride are you?