When I was in college, I wrote an essay (that earned me an A, by the way) about how Marriage was an outdated institution. Why would anyone get married when it was originally a transfer of chattel, a way to unite warring tribes, a desperately patriarchal institution? I believed it too. Now I’m married with two kids and plan weddings for a living.
So what happened?
Part of it was growing up a bit and realizing that it was not 1930, 1720, 1560 and that no one was buying or selling me, I wasn’t going to bring peace to anything, and any apron and high heel combos I might wear would probably have nothing to do with making diner.
The other part, the most important part, is that I discovered what marriage is about, what it’s really about. Its about having a partner, for the rest of your life, through the good and the bad. I know that sounds kind of cheesy, but having been married for eight years now, I really understand the value of that. It’s being able to tell your partner some detail, some little thing, and knowing that they know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s about picking up starbucks for your partner and knowing exactly how many pumps of vanilla they take. It’s also about sharing the biggest tragedy of your life and knowing that that tragedy only made your partnership stronger.
Anyway, the reason I love weddings is the reason I love marriage. When you say I do, you are making the biggest commitment of your life to that point and you do it because you love someone so very much. When you’ve been married a while, you learn that you make that same commitment over and over again. You make it in ways you don’t necessarily think of as commitments, like making sure that your partner has clean socks, or getting the kids up, washed, dressed, and fed, and letting her sleep in, or just shutting up even though you want to tell him that he’s being a baby. You commit your life to someone else, and they commit right back at you. What an amazing thing.
I love weddings because it’s the first promise in a life long list of promises. Its the one takes you from a person to a family. Its the promise that makes all your other promises possible.
Oh, and I also love a good party.
What are some of the reasons you love weddings?