Anyone who knows me knows I don’t stand on tradition. I never make the same dish twice at Thanksgiving, for heaven's sake! That said, there are a few things, call them traditions, call them formalities, that no matter how modern or funky or out of the box you are, you can’t, I repeat CANNOT do!
Send a Facebook invite to your wedding. I mean, do I need to say more? Well, I will. First, don’t even consider a paperless invite unless you are already well known as a recycler or environmentalist. This is the only excuse for not sending a real invitation. And if you are an environmentalist, there are other paperless options- evites are just one, and much nicer. That said, entirely paperless isn’t possible. It is important that you send real invites to grandparents and people who aren’t regularly on the internet. I know invitations can be expensive, but there are tons of options now, including vistaprint and craft stores to ease the sting.
Terrible thank you schemes. You MUST send paper thank you’s NO MATTER WHAT! E-mailed thank yous are just plain tacky. Now, there is another issue I must address here. I’ve recently seen on Pinterest an “idea” where you have your guests fill out their own thank you envelopes in lieu of a guest book. In general, I’m a huge fan of pinterest, but this particular idea is complete crap. It should be banned. Do. Not. Do. This. This is the epitome of tacky.
Not feeding hungry people. If you’re going to do an hour or more of photos after the ceremony (and if you’re doing photos after the ceremony, it’ll take at least an hour), you need some appetizers of some kind and you need to have the bar open. Likewise, you shouldn’t make your guests wait hours and hours while you let the microphone be passed, or chat with college friends or watch slide shows or what ever, to eat. Also, be considerate of children and older people. Make sure they’re fed first. Feeding people promptly relaxes them and makes them happy. And it opens up the rest of the party for the fun stuff like dancing and socializing!
The stepparent misstep. Many of us have them now. Probably most of us. So there is no excuse for a faux pas here. I know everyone has their own unique situation, but as a rule of thumb, treat all parents, step and otherwise, the same. It is a huge insult to get a corsage for a mother and not a stepmother, or the other way around. If this is something that bothers your or your fiance’s biological mother or father, you need to sit them down and explain (in a nice way) that they need to grow up and play nice on your wedding day.
Over imbibing- nothing worse than seeing a bride puking in a bathroom stall, her dress billowing out behind her. This one is a faux pas for your guests, but a tragedy for you. You spent all this time and money and sweat and tears to create this beautiful wedding and you won’t remember a thing, or if you do, it’ll be tinged with heavy regret. Have a few beers or glasses of wine. Just don’t over do it. You’ll regret it.
There are always plenty of faux pas. What are some that you’ve seen?